I could quote the statistics. I could tell you how the porn industry has taken a beating because of the amount of free porn online; how Playboy stopped printing porn in its magazines because it was no longer lucrative economically. I could tell you how there were over 40,000 websites dedicated to pornography distribution in 2008. I could tell you about how pornography is linked to aggression and drug use. I could tell you about how 13% of all internet searches are porn related. I could tell you about how 80% of 18-30 year old men and 75% of 18-30 year old women view pornography at least monthly. I could tell you how statistically porn increases the chance of an affair by over 200%. I could tell you how over half of divorces involve obsessive pornography use. I could tell you how over 70% of teens actively try to hide their internet activity, and over a third of teens admit to using pornography too many times to count. I could tell you how 93% of all male teens are exposed to pornography, and 62% of all female teens. I could tell you how two thirds of Christian men look at pornography - a number equal to the number of non-christian men who do so. I could tell you the statistics showing the addictive nature of porn. Or I could just tell you my story. I could quote the statistics because I am one.
I was in high school when we first got internet access at my house. It took what seemed like 10 minutes to connect through the 56k dial up modem. The dangers of the internet were little known then, so my parents didn't really know any better than to let me keep a computer in my room for homework and games. It was there that I was first exposed to porn.
Then came college and law school. I didn't have to worry about my parents catching me any more. By this time, free porn flooded the internet. I was also on the hunt for the future Mrs. Bryant, but relationship after relationship folded.
Then came Mrs. Bryant, by God's grace alone. I did not deserve her. I thought that getting married would end my pornography use. I was wrong and soon found that the single biggest obstacle to a having a great marriage was porn.
Then came the practice of law. As a solo practitioner, I took whatever cases would pay the bills, 70% of which were family cases. Client after client would tell me they used pornography or were unhappily married to someone who did. Kids that I represented would tell me about walking in on one of their parents using porn. Porn was tearing apart families.
Then came Covenant Eyes. This secret sin was insidious and too easy to continue alone. I needed someone or something to help me stop doing things that I knew displeased God and hurt my wife. Covenant Eyes was one tool that helped me. When installed, it began monitoring my internet use and for a time blocked any effort to access porn. My porn use came to a halt.
After a while, we stopped filtering my web access so that I could fail, but not without my wife and several other guys knowing about it. The idea was to stop relying as much on the software to keep me away from porn. We knew that porn use is something that must be constantly guarded against. This is why we still have and will never stop using Covenant Eyes.
Now I have children of my own. Already they are using the internet to watch cartoons and play games. My son knows how to read like a champ, so its only a matter of time before he is able to use the internet with more and more frequency, scope, and purpose. To protect them from the same heartache I experienced and caused, my children will use Covenant Eyes too.
Some would ask why I'm so open about this. Well, statistically most of those who read this post have had difficulties with porn as well. In fact, many are currently having difficulties. What I want you to know is not the details of my story, but how with God's help and this simple tool, I've been freed. I want to encourage you to install Covenant Eyes on your computers, tablets, and smart phones - men and women alike. Let there be transparency and accountability in your marriage that builds trust and strengthens marriage. Protect your children from the struggle of overcoming pornography. You can get your first month free by clicking here or on the banners to the right or below. Don't regret your internet usage. Get some accountability and don't be a statistic.
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I follow Christ. I have a beautiful wife Megan and three wonderful children, Harrisen, Rebekah, and Carter. I have an M.Div. from Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary, am licensed to practice law in several state and federal courts, and live in Rogers, Arkansas. I write a blog and produce a podcast. And I do it all that others may know Christ.