Christmas has come and gone. All the Christmas stuff has been moved to the clearance aisle, which means that the colors of the holiday aisle have been transformed from green, red, and gold to pink, red, and white. It's time to start thinking about Valentine's Day already. Why not invest in some real, quality time with your spouse or fiancé this Valentine's Day by attending Marital Matter, a 2-day marriage workshop at First Baptist Rogers? Here are 10 reasons why you should come.
1. Decrease the risk of diabetes and obesity. A quick google search indicates that Americans will spend over $1 Trillion on candy, including over 36 million boxes of chocolate and over 8 billion of those chalky candy hearts. Don't contribute to the risk of diabetes and obesity of your significant other (or yourself if you're like me and eat what you bought your spouse)!
2. Make the world smell better. Google also shows that over 200 million roses will needlessly die in February. Can you imagine how much better the world would smell if we wouldn't kill so many beautifully smelling plants?
3. Increase cotton supplies. I don't know how many teddy bears are sold each Valentine's Day, but it's a lot. Let's keep cotton prices down by not increasing demand and decreasing supply so much in February.
4. Break the consumer cycle. In all seriousness (or at least some), Valentine's Day has become a bit of a consumer holiday. Some studies estimate that as a couple you'll spend around $225 on stuff this Valentine's Day. Marital Matter is substantially more affordable!
5. Get a better return on your investment. Ok seriously, you'll get a better return on your Valentine's Day expenditures by coming to Marital Matter, where you'll discuss budgeting, your view of money, and other ways in which money comes into marriage. If what you learn saves you just $100 per month, next year you'll have paid for the next six Valentine's Days. In 10 years you'll have saved $12,000 and in 50 you'll have saved $60,000. Are those bears, candies, and roses going to do that for you?
6. Spice it up. Ok guys - you know what Valentine's Day is really for. Let's just say there's a reason why pregnancy test sales double in February. At Marital Matter, you'll learn that there's so much more to sex than just sex. There's intimacy, connection, romance, affection, and so much more. You'll hear what the Bible has to say about the incredible gift of sex.
7. Tone it down. Now I know most of you have never gotten into an argument with your significant other. Ok, that's a lie. I know most of you have. At Marital Matter, you'll learn how to resolve the inevitable conflict that comes into your relationship in a manner that both of you don't walk away feeling awful, and hopefully without any screaming, yelling, pushing, shoving, kicking, biting, or other less productive activities.
8. Get it out. Are you tired of hearing her say, "share your feelings with me" or something similar? When he's talking are you already planning your comeback? At Marital Matter, you'll discuss the two components of communication (assertiveness and active listening) and learn skills that help you do both better than you do now.
9. Bring Him in. My Dad officiated my wedding ceremony, and he described marriage as a triangle with my wife and I at opposite ends of the bottom corners and God at the top corner. His point was that the closer we got to God, the closer we'd get to each other. At Marital Matter, you'll learn why spiritual beliefs are a key component of marriage, and what marriage is itself more of a spiritual union than anything else.
10. Know where you stand. My former boss told me on my first day of my first job out of college that you can't manage what you can't measure. At Marital Matter, you'll take an assessment that identifies the degree to which you agree on several different components of marriage and how satisfied each of you are in those areas. This is a very fruitful and wise exercise. Knowing where you stand and learning skills to improve your marriage will help you walk away from this workshop ready to make 2016 the best year of your married life!
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I follow Christ. I have a beautiful wife Megan and three wonderful children, Harrisen, Rebekah, and Carter. I am a candidate for a Ph.D. in ethics from Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, have an M.Div. from Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary and a JD from the University of Arkansas, am licensed to practice law in several state and federal courts, and live in Rogers, Arkansas. I write a blog and produce a podcast. And I do it all that others may know Christ.